Article by Doug Hagedorn

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Have you ever found yourself in a devastating, hopeless situation? Perhaps you felt alone and unsure of where to turn.

Recently, I experienced a moment that tested my faith and resilience. Just two weeks ago, I lay in a gas station parking lot near Buffalo, NY, battling a frightening stroke that left me unable to move my legs and continuously throwing up blood. I was helpless and alone. In that moment of desperation, I pleaded with God to save my life, and He heard my cry.

  1. We are not meant to be alone

After five days in ER and ICU, I returned home and my very first devotional time with the Lord recalled the story of King Asa from 2 Chronicles 16. Asa was a king who started well, relying on God to lead his people against the enemy. Early in his reign, he faced an invasion from the Cushites, and he turned to God in prayer, proclaiming, “Help us, O Lord our God, for we rest on You” (2 Chron. 14:11).

God responded powerfully, granting him victory. However, later in life, Asa faced another challenge—a threat from the king of Israel. Instead of seeking God, he relied on an alliance with another king, ultimately forsaking the Lord’s guidance. King Asa also made the choice to turn solely to physicians instead of leaning on the Lord during the later years of his life (2 Chron. 16:12).

These pivotal moment reveals a tendency we all share: the temptation to rely on our own understanding or external solutions rather than turning to God in faith. As A.W. Tozer said, “God waits to be wanted.” He desires to be our comforter and help in times of trouble.

  1. Prioritize what matters most

As leaders, it is crucial to focus on the main things in life. When reflecting on our lives, we are told by those who have gone before us that we ultimately won’t regret the time not spent at the office, but rather the moments we missed with family and loved ones.

In Matthew 6:19-21, we are reminded to store up treasures in heaven, for where our treasure is, there our heart will be also. Our most important treasures are not the 401k, the IRA, or our toys, but our family and those who need the Lord. Make intentional choices about your time. Draw boundaries with work, invest in your family, and focus on relationships that transcend generations. Ask yourself: who around you needs the Lord? How can you share His love and message?

  1. Create a support system

Isolation can lead to loneliness, which impacts our effectiveness as leaders. Studies show that 70% of CEOs experience loneliness, making community vital for our health and performance. Hebrews 10:24-25 encourages us not to give up meeting together, as this is where we find care, accountability, and encouragement.

I recall a season of life where I needed the comradery and accountability of other men, but no small group was to be found. The Lord challenged me to start a group myself. I have been part of that group now for 15 years—we have encouraged each other and built each other up through the most challenging times of life. Seek or create a support group—be it a church, Bible study, or peer group. These connections provide the strength we need during difficult times.

  1. Trust God in trials

God allows trials for a purpose. Instead of questioning Him, we should trust in His divine plan. In Psalm 119:71, David proclaims, “It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees.” Our struggles are often opportunities for growth and refinement, and to actually know God in a more intimate way.

When faced with challenges, remember that God is preparing us for His greater purpose. As Isaiah 40:31 reassures us, those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. He will never leave us or forsake us, and we can be of good courage, knowing that the battle belongs to Him.

As I reflect on my recent experience, I urge you to look up and walk forward in faith. Remember that you are not alone; God is waiting to be your partner, your strength, and your comfort. Let us embrace the lessons learned from our trials and encourage one another in our leadership journeys.